Choosing our Values Over Our Fear for Less Burnout and More Joy Format: Workshop/Breakout Session

Length: 60 Minutes

Audience: Women

Summary: This session is designed to engage the audience in the process of overcoming the self-doubt, perfectionistic voices, and old narratives that keep them from living in line with their values- the things that matter the most to them at home, work, and beyond. Through telling powerful and relatable stories, Kaitlin will teach the audience to use the 3 R's of Imperfect Growth and Evolution (a model she created in her book, "A LIttle Less Of A Hot Mess") as a guide for practical and lasting change.

Takeaways:

• To understand how and why much of what we learn about womanhood and motherhood is unhelpful and makes us feel like we’re falling short or failing.
• An understanding of how the myths/stories we are told about motherhood and identity steer us towards our fear and limiting beliefs instead of our values!
• A understanding of the 3 R’s of Imperfect Growth and Evolution (a growth model shared in Kaitin’s book) and how to apply it to their own lives so they can move towards their values instead of their fear.
• An understanding of how important it is to give ourselves grace and compassion as we're working on our own growth and mental health.

The Way Towards Better Mental Health for Modern Moms (Bubble Baths and Pedicures Not Included).

Summary: This interactive in-person workshop is designed to engage women in the process of overcoming the self-doubt, perfectionistic voices, and old narratives that keep them feeling stuck and playing small. Through telling powerful and relatable stories and teaching her imperfect growth and evolution model, renowned therapist and author Kaitlin Soule, will leave attendees feeling empowered and ready to take the next step in their personal and professional growth journey’s.

Content:

• Intro to Imperfect Growth and Evolution + How it’s different from pop culture’s notion of self-care.
• Rewriting the old stories that keep us stuck.
• Restoring our sense of self and what we care about the most (values work.)
• Reclaiming our values led way forward with grace and intention.

Takeaways:

1. You are a whole person, beyond your roles, and investing in yourself is critical.
2. The ability to challenge and change negative self-talk and let go of "shoulds" in parenting, work-life, relationships, and beyond
3. The language to talk about the mental, emotional and domestic load with your partner so you can reclaim your time, the most valuable commodity you have.
4. Empowered to get interested in your whole self again, beyond your roles(parent, partner, professional).

The Y.E.S. Mindset: The Way Towards Better Mental Health for the Modern Women at Work, Home and beyond.

Summary: It’s no secret that moms still disproportionately carry the brunt of the mental and physical load when it comes to running a household. According to Motherly’s 2023 State of Motherhood Report, women are feeling more resigned than ever to the role of "doing it all" and as a result, 62% of mothers report getting less than one hour to themselves each day. On top of that, 48% of moms report "always" or "frequently" feeling burned out.

Content: As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, an author of "A Little Less Of A Hot Mess", and a busy mom to three, I know what it feels like to have mixed feelings about the role of being a women in a world where it feels like we're supposed to "do it all and be it all" WITHOUT the resources to do so.

A question I’ve started asking myself and my clients is this; what if we shifted our perspective a bit? While we tend to want instant gratification and total change, in the world of psychology we know that actual and sustainable change doesn’t happen overnight and/or easily. Real change, on both a social and a personal level, happens with a shift in perspective and sustained effort:

• Y- You Come First + You Get to Decide Putting ourselves first is not selfish, but instead it’s self-preservation. Not only are we deserving of being well just because we’re human, but also, it’s important to note that our overall sense of well-being directly relates to that of our children’s! Our notion of wellness has to go beyond a few minutes for ourselves to go to the bathroom, and towards doing things often that honor our whole self beyond "mom". (i.e. enjoyable movement, time with friends, making space for laughter and creativity). As a grown adult, you can decide what you want the holiday’s to look like for yourself and your kids. In other words, you can write a new holiday story, if the one written for you is too overwhelming or underwhelming. You don’t have to use the nice china, host people you don’t enjoy being around, or uphold a tradition that no longer honors your values.

• E- Equity is essential. In this modern world, we can’t do it all alone...share the load. Work with your partner, family, or community to set up a system to divide responsibilities and household chores, so you have more time and space for your own needs and desires. Contrary to what we may have been taught, it’s NOT our job to make the holiday season magical for everyone and unbearable for ourselves.

• S- Setting boundaries is Key.

• Boundaries are key to healthy relationships with yourself and others. How: Pick just one boundary to set and hold this holiday season. It could be as simple as saying "no" to a family party that always seems to make you feel more stress than joy, or "yes" to a new and unconventional activity.